My friend did this study on the Proverbs 31 woman. She says “I just picked out the bits and pieces that made sense to me — and helped me get some perspective on where I should be “pointing” myself.”


Who can find a wife with a strong character, a woman of valor, an excellent
wife? Her worth is much greater than jewels.
The heart of her husband confides in her. He trusts her with all his heart.
He does not lack anything good. He will not need to use any unlawful means
to gain his living. She helps him and never harms him all the days of her
She encourages work by her example, illustrating the duty of all persons to
improve all their talents and use of their time, to the service of God and
to the good of their community. She seeks out wool and linen with care and
with delight she works with willing hands.
She is like the trading-ships, getting food from far away. By the sale of
her homespun commodities she purchases the choicest goods. She wakes up
while it is still dark and distributes all necessary provisions to her
family and portions of food to her female slaves.
After looking at a field with care, she gets it for a good price, planting a
garden with the profit she has earned. With her great diligence, speed, and
purpose, she improves the land to the best advantage. She “rolls up her
sleeves” and puts forth her utmost strength in her business. She goes to
work with energy.
She finds great comfort in her labors. Her candle signifies her unwearied
care and industry. She senses that her earning is good and that she is
making a good profit.
By her own example she provokes her subordinates to work hard. She puts her
hands on the distaff, and her fingers hold a spindle, although it is
considered common labor.
She opens her arms to the oppressed; yes, she is open-handed to those who
are in need.
She hath provided enough clothing to her family, not only for their
necessity, but also for their delight and ornament. She does not worry when
it snows because her whole family has plenty of warm clothing.
The furnishings of her house meets her high quality and standards. She makes
quilts for herself. She makes carpets of tapestry. Her clothing is fine
linen and purple.
Her husband is observed and respected, not only for his own worth, but for
his wife’s sake, in counsel or judgment. He is a man of note when he sits
with the responsible men and leaders of the land.
She makes linen robes and is paid well for them, and traders take her cloth
bands for a price.
Strength of mind, magnanimity, courage, and activity are her ornament and
glory. She lives in constant tranquility of mind, from a just confidence in
God’s gracious providence. Strength, nobility, dignity, and self-respect are
her clothing. She faces the future with a smile.
She is neither sullenly silent, nor full of rude or meddlesome talk, but
speaks discreetly and devoutly. Her speeches are guided by wisdom and grace,
and not by passion. On her tongue there is tender and faithful instruction
and the law of mercy. And this practice is called a law in her tongue,
because it is constant and customary, and proceeds from an inward and
powerful principle of true wisdom. Her tongue is a book by which one might
learn many good things: for she delights to talk of the word of God.
She diligently observes and gives attention to the ways of her family, the
management of her domestic business, and the whole carriage of her children
and servants. She keeps a close eye on the conduct of her family, and she
does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children get up and give her honor, and her husband gives her praise,
saying, Many women have done noble work, but you have surpassed them all!
Gracefulness is deceptive, and beauty evaporates, but a woman who has the
fear of the LORD should be praised.
It is but just that she should enjoy those praises which her labors deserve.
If men be silent, the lasting effects of her prudence and diligence will
trumpet forth her praises in the most public and solemn assemblies. Reward
her for what she has done, and let her achievements praise her. Give her
credit for what her hands have made.