Little Problems in marriage: Seeds vs, Watermelon

What do you do about those little problems in your marriage?
Do you focus on the seeds or do you focus on the watermelon?

What might the ‘seeds’  be in your marriage?

Unresolved tensions
Glossed over hurts
Things you haven’t talked about because they don’t see that important
Surface conversations that don’t get to feelings
Shallow comments that don’t take feelings into consideration
Little things that get under your skin because you can’t let them go
Nitpicky comments that can drive a man to drink
Refusing to love the person the way they like to be loved
Selfish behaviors

The Watermelon is the bigger picture.
Fact. Most watermelons have seeds — unless you buy those weird watermelons that aren’t really watermelons because they have been mutated to grow without seeds. We have to  spit them out or we choke. If we swallow them we will have a watermelon tree growing in our stomach. (Ok, I know they grow on vines.)
Look.  Sometimes the seeds get in the way of the watermelon. The seeds start to grow in our minds. They block out good thinking. The seeds become our obsession.  They are easy to spit out…but what do we do? We suck on em. (some spit them at their siblings

(my comment))We keep thinking about them.
We let them plant in our brain until we have watermelons growing out of our ears. Spit out the seeds. Or at least acknowledge they are there, talk about them, and let them go.
Don’t make the seed the watermelon.
Deal with the seed so you can enjoy the sweet goodness of the watermelon.
from  The Marry Blogger

Ephesians 4:31-32  Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

And if I had any question about what Paul meant, the Amplified Bible reads:
Ephesians 4:31-32 Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness of any kind). And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily and freely], as God in Christ forgave
you.

WHEW! Time for some pondering and searching. . .

Trust God for your day, ….Today

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